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While it is not a clinical syndrome; that is, a diagnosis found in The Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders-IV, procrastination is still problematic, psychologically. It can create mild symptoms or some that are chronic, even paralyzing. Regardless, procrastination is something that can be cured.
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I usually pick the more good-humored, self-serving behavior, which necessarily means I'm putting off choosing the "other." This looks to be procrastinating, because I'm not doing something, but in reality I'm maneuvering around a conflict. I am ambivalent, experiencing some level of anxiety and trying avoid the whole thing.
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-Dr. Griggs